We do not choose the type of children we want, just the number of them. But they neither decide the place of type of family they would like. Everything is a matter of luck for both parts.
During life we can take a choice about many things. We choose our clothes, the occupation or profession we like, what movies to watch, friends and the people with whom we interact or fall in love.
But we don´t choose our parents, brothers/sisters or uncles/aunts: we just fall into a family by luck.
We don´t choose the family, and it should be a Lovely Environment, not just a simple Survival Space
For many families (even mine), this is something that comes in an authomatic way. They don´t think about it. They don´t understand that the family is the primary nucleus of society, so it should be a Lovely Environment to host our children, and not just a simple Survival space. And most of the time, that´s the problem.
Many people think: “this kid has been so lucky to be born here, he could be born in some third world country plagued by hunger and misery”
But let me tell you something. I agree that most of those sites, specially countries in war, are terrible places for the growth and development of a child. But on the other hand, many families on these places just arent´t rich, they don´t have all the amenities you can have like Streaming TV, Movies, Cars, etc. They just have the necessary to live, and concentrate all their efforts on giving their children the feeding and the love they need. They don´t have to worry about all the other superficial things in the Western world. Many times, these children are even happier.
The Western world is plagued with envy, resentment, desire for wealth and some other bad influences, and many times our children will inherit it one way or another.
A man and a woman are the unique combination able to procreate, until now. It´s true. But that simple fact does not imply a default family. It´s not just about bringing children into the world.
Take a look at this cool video about Tips for Creating Healtchy Home Environments for Kids.
Creating Healthy Home Environments for Kids.
Be a Parent means more than just procreation; You have to go through all the way…
To be a Mother or Father is a lot more than procreation, I think.
To be a good Father is a lot more than wear the breeches or only work to bring money home.
Giving birth to a child is just the first step to to hold the title of being a mother .
When any person get a certificate of any profession or occupation, it doesn´t mean necesarilly he can do that job just because he has this document.. Any company will require him to demonstrate experience to believe he is able to do what his certificate claims.
It´s the same. The parents have to demonstrate in the “the battlefield” what are they able to do. And most of the time, they will enjoy the result: watch their kids growing and being well educated.
Mother, Father and Kids are the core of a Family. All the rest (Uncles, Aunts, Grandmothers, Grandfathers, cousins, etc) are all additional components we just have to handle.
Because many times children are born into a dysfunctional family. And the mission of parents is to teach their children values and control the bad influences that may have by some family.
I know it´s a very difficult task because I’ve been through all this. But if you don´t do it, your children will pay the consequences.
So, like we don´t choose the family, we just have to deal with them. We should talk to our families if possible and try, altogether, to provide the best hosting for the growth of our children. Most of the time we can not protect them from all evil influences, and simply must keep trying is our best bet.